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By David Wilkinson   
Friday, February 05, 2010

David Wilkinson
(ABP) -- "Revenge is the rage at the movies," proclaims The Wall Street Journal. Well, there's a surprise.

The WSJ notes that revenge, retribution and retaliation are served up (with heaping helpings of violence, naturally) in a trio of recent releases: "Edge of Darkness," starring Mel Gibson, "7 Days," a French-Canadian film, and "44 Inch Chest," with Ray Winstone. (In my part of the world, the latter two flicks have gone largely unnoticed. But trailers for "Edge of Darkness" have been so ubiquitous over the last month they have about pushed me over the edge.)

Not that vengeance is something new, of course. As the WSJ goes on to point out, it's been the stuff of storytellers since Euripides. Or, we might add, the storytellers of Genesis.

This time around, however, I think I'll take a pass.

If you feel compelled to welcome Mel back to the big screen with your eight bucks (can you tell I live in a small town?), that's your business. Meanwhile, inspired by our recent New Voice Media feature on Christians and radical forgiveness, I have an alternative to suggest. Consider a different movie with a radically different theme. Save yourself a few dollars (and the aggravation of wondering how that group of 12-year-olds got into an R-rated movie), make a visit to your favorite video store, and plunk down $2.99 or whatever to rent "Tender Mercies." 

Made in 1983 and the winner of two Academy Awards (best original screenplay and Robert Duvall for best actor), "Tender Mercies" in my judgment is a classic. It will continue to be appreciated long after "Edge of Darkness" has unceremoniously been buried in that great graveyard of forgettable films.

In contrast to the cinema's obsession with vengeance, "Tender Mercies" is about, well, mercy. And forgiveness.

Talk about themes that have been underplayed and under-explored. While movies with vengeance themes are a dime a dozen, films that tell compelling stories of mercy and forgiveness are harder to find.

"Tender Mercies" immediately came to mind. After that, it got tougher. So, I consulted a friend at church who is the entertainment editor for the Waco Tribune-Herald. Carl Hoover knows more movie titles than I know words. But he had a hard time coming up with a list as well. "That may prove a point for you," Carl surmised: "how difficult it is for Hollywood to offer a role model for forgiveness and reconciliation when audiences and filmmakers prefer the shortcut of violence." The Terminator trumps the Teacher any day.

So, consider taking another step down a road less traveled. If you really want to buck the current entertainment trend, consider watching "Tender Mercies" and then finding a quiet place and reading another classic that has forgiveness as one of its themes, the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5-7). You can read the Sermon carefully in less time than it takes to sit through all the pre-feature trailers at the theater.

But beware. The Sermon should come with a warning label. "Tender Mercies" will make you cry. But the way of radical forgiveness preached (and lived) by Jesus is more apt to make you duck. It's a natural response. In fact, followers of Jesus have been figuring out ways to duck the implications and repercussions of the Sermon since the words came out of Jesus' mouth.

A few years ago a small group of adults at my church bravely participated in a Companions in Christ spiritual-formation experience titled The Way of Forgiveness. After eight weeks of reading, praying, journaling -- and refreshingly transparent and honest conversation -- the group discovered several things. The kind of forgiveness taught and embodied by Jesus is hard. Indeed, to forgive as God forgives can only be done through God's grace and the power of the Holy Spirit. But the experience of forgiveness -- to forgive and to be forgiven as God has loved and forgiven us -- is also liberating, healing, redeeming. 

Revenge, retribution, retaliation. Those themes may play well in the movies. And far too often they describe the way we respond when we are wounded or mistreated.

But they are not the way of Jesus.

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written by gs12, February 08, 2010
David, thanks for the recommendation. I'll check out Tender Mercies. Sounds like a good movie for Lent. The three R's you mentioned play well in movies, politics, and TV. Thank you for pointing out that Jesus preached a different way. You made my day!
Jesus and radical forgiveness
written by Xenophon, February 09, 2010
I wonder how Mr. Wilkinson would deal with Jesus' spirited condemnation of the Pharisees in such passages as Matthew 23 as well as greater Jerusalem at the close of the chapter. I also wonder how he deals with such teachings of Jesus as are found in Luke 17:3-4 and Matthew 18:15-17 where the aggrieved is told to confront the wrongdoer and not forgive until the the aggressor shows repentance.
Forgiveness given, not earned
written by Norman, February 09, 2010
David
glad you are writing again. Your thoughtful insights are always welcomed. I'm continually amazed that even when considering the great act of forgiveness, the life of forgiveness, the example of forgiveness that Jesus gave us some will proof text their own preferences and ignore the simple ultimate demonstration of forgiveness from the cross. "father forgive them." no revenge sought. No repentence first required. Peace among us remains out of reach as long as Christians withhold forgiveness pending remorse of the ofFender.
Jesus on the Cross
written by Xenophon, February 09, 2010
Norman, do you think that the people who crucified Jesus were ever actually forgiven without their repenting? Do you think they are in Heaven now if they never repented? If they are in Hell, are they not being punished for the sin of, at least, murdering a man they knew to be innocent?

It seems as though what Jesus was saying on the Cross was that the Jews and Romans who were murdering him could be forgiven. They were not committing the unpardonable sin. Jesus clearly taught in a number of biblical passages that repentance is required for God's forgiveness, even if that repentance is imperfect. For example consider Matthew 18:23-35.

"The kingdom of heaven may be compared to a certain king who wished to settle accounts with his slaves. And when he had begun to settle them, there was brought to him one who owed him ten thousand days wages. But since he did not have the means to repay, his lord commanded him to be sold a, along with his wife and children and all that he had, and repayment to be made. The slave therefore falling down, prostrated himself before him, saying, 'Have patience with me, and I will repay you everything.' And the lord of that slave felt compassion and released him and forgave him the debt."

In that same chapter of Matthew (verses 15-17), Jesus taught us how to respond when someone wrongs us humans.

"If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that 'every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.'If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector."

The problem for fallen humans is that if they do not see how awful their sins are, they will not see their need for a Savior nor will they respect and cooperate with other humans. Unilateral forgiveness fosters a lack of accountability for us all but especially for highly aggressive people. Without some sort of accountability, the most vicious people will continually ride roughshod over others.

People with a more sensitive conscience can be reached by a less severe, subtle approach. When dealing with folks with that sort of temperament, a gentle word is enough of a confrontation to serve the purpose of prompting the wrongdoer to become more self-aware. A strategy of "turning the other cheek" might also work with someone with a capacity to see what he is doing to others. But suspending or softening rebuke is not the same as forgiveness. Softer approaches to induce another to reflect on his inconsiderate or oppressive ways are not synonymous with forgiveness. Rather they are strategies to lead a person to repentance and true forgiveness followed by reconciliation.


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